Spears and LaChapelle both say they knew the photo would cause a bit of commotion, but they figured it was worth it. “I said to her, ‘You don’t want to be buttoned up, like Debbie Gibson,’ ” LaChapelle recalls. “I said, ‘Let’s push it further and do this whole Lolita thing.’ She got it. She knew it would get people talking and excited.” Spears proved, even then, that she was going to take charge of crafting her own image. One night while they were shooting, LaChapelle says, Spears’ manager, Larry Rudolph, walked in at 2 a.m. to find her posing in her bra and panties. Rudolph demanded to know what was going on. “Britney said, ‘Yeah, I don’t feel comfortable,’ ” says the photographer. “At first I felt betrayed. But as soon as Larry walked out, Britney said, ‘Lock the door’ and unbuttoned her shirt wide open.”
—Rolling Stone, 2011
I didn’t talk about it when we were talking about teenage Britney, baby celebrity transformed so unimaginably fully, so inconceivably fast, because I wasn’t planning to talk about it and I wasn’t planning to talk about it because I didn’t want to. I didn’t want to give Dave LaChapelle more attention. I love …Baby One More Time but I didn’t want to dwell on this because it depresses me. It does. That someone, many someones, let this happen, even if by that I also mean let her do this. That we live in a world that made a man think to suggest this to a girl, that made it feel like a good idea, if we can take his word for it, to play along.
All I did was tie up my shirt! I’m wearing a sports bra under it. Sure, I’m wearing thigh-highs, but kids wear those — it’s the style. Have you seen MTV — all those in thongs?”
—Britney Spears to Rolling Stone, 1999
I didn’t want to talk about it but I’m stuck on it, tripping over it without piecing together what precisely I want to say. I don’t like, I am very much opposed to, either presuming to know how Britney feels about things or implying I know how she should feel. I don’t know if she looks back and would have done things differently. I don’t even know, really, if it would have changed things in the long run. I don’t know, I won’t say, that being publicly, nationally, globally sexualized at seventeen has an inevitable shaping effect on a person’s development. Even if it’s hard — and it is hard — for me to believe it wouldn’t, I won’t speak about that on her behalf. And yet. And yet. I’m stuck on, tripping over, who allowed this, and why.
In many ways, what Britney was wearing and what she was doing was really quite unremarkable. I think the thing that was specifically remarkable was the way people chose to go straight to the “dirty old man” place. I read an article in Q Magazine about 12 months afterward, which said that Britney was designed by a bunch of dirty old men wearing raincoats in a record company office, you know, that this outfit and this look had been carefully created by a bunch of dirty old guys sitting around a table. But that was absolutely not the case at all. There was an honest discussion between three people at a wardrobe meeting about whether this was an okay way to go. Two of those people were women. Eventually, we reached the conclusion that some people might choose to go there, but most of the people who saw it would say it’s a girl at school being a 16 year old. I think people chose to read a lot into it, but it was not necessarily as overt as they’d like to believe.
—Nigel Dick on directing …Baby One More Time, 2013
What does “sexy” mean when you are seventeen and have never had sex? What does “sexy” mean when you have had and you are still seventeen? What does it mean to be young and developing a sexuality, becoming a sexual being, what does that mean between two young people for whom it is new and what does it mean between someone young and someone not? We don’t even let seventeen-year-olds get tattoos. What does “sexy” mean when “sexy” means “adult” and when you are young enough to think that at seventeen “adult” is something you are ready to be?
What’s a fire, and why does it — what’s the word — burn?
—Ariel, “Part of Your World,” The Little Mermaid
What does it mean to play with a fire you have never touched, and what does it mean to decide someone chose to play with fire when they never could have predicted all the ways it could burn?
The girl who disappears from the pool
will never return. A woman will return,
looking for the girl she was.
She stands by the pool saying, from time to time,
I was abducted, but it sounds
wrong to her, nothing like what she felt.
Then she says, I was not abducted.
Then she says, I offered myself, I wanted
to escape my body. Even, sometimes,
I willed this. But ignorance
cannot will knowledge. Ignorance
wills something imagined, which it believes exists.
—Louise Gluck, “A Myth of Innocence”
There is the idea of young Britney dressing herself as jailbait, playing a Lolita, the faux-ingenue whose innocence adds an edge to the forbidden sexuality barely locked within, and then behind that, beyond it, so much larger and yet not a place I see people push to when looking at this girl who was so looked at, there is the question: why the fuck do we have ready names for a child grown men want to abuse? And why are they names used to imply there is something this child is doing to make that situation make sense? You know Humbert was the bad guy, right?—but I’m not sure they do. I didn’t want to talk about it and I don’t have any answers but I had to ask the questions because meanwhile they keep watching, and if Britney can train her own eyes back at them — which she does, unblinking, her own intensity rising in time with theirs — it felt, I guess, like the least I could do.
In this business you make a deal with the devil.
—Britney Spears to InStyle, 2013
At what age did you lose your compassion?
Síðastliðin misseri hafa verið nokkuð stormasöm á mínu heimili. Alveg frá því að maki minn ákvað að standa fyrir þeim einfalda gjörningi að safna saman ummælum sem einkennast af kvenfyrirlitningu og hatri og birta undir heitinu ‘Karlar sem hata konur’. Það vita allir að það gekk ekki þegjandi og hljóðalaust fyrir sig. Konunni minni var (og er) hótað allskonar ofbeldi, heim til okkar var hringt með svívirðingar og fúkyrði. Allt vegna þess að kona dirfðist að benda á hverskonar orðræða á sér stað í samfélaginu um konur.
Þetta sáu flestir að var galið. DV útnefndi t.d. Hildi ‘hetju ársins’ fyrir að berjast ‘fyrir jafnréttismálum hér á landi og gegn því að kvenfyrirlitning og lítillækkun á konum í orðræðu verði að eðlilegum hugsunarhætti’. Kastljósið bauð henni í viðtöl, menntaskólar sóttust eftir að fá hana til að ræða við nemendur um kvenfyrirlitningu. Á köflum leið henni ekki vel, en viðurkenning af þessu tagi sannfærði hana um að þetta væri þó þess virði. Jafnvel þó einstaka fífl hringdi heim til hennar og hótaði að brenna fjölskyldubílinn.
Svo skrifar hún grein ásamt Helgu Þóreyju Jónsdóttur. Hún er hér. Lestu hana.
Þar er sett fram einföld krafa um að Háskóli Íslands útskýri afhverju það sé eðlilegt að umdeildur maður, sem uppvís hefur verið að kynferðisofbeldi í garð ólögráða stúlku, kenni þar skyldunámskeið.
Er þetta galin spurning?
Stundum gerist það að Hildur ræðir við mig um það sem hún skrifar eða lætur frá sér. Við erum ekki alltaf sammála, en þegar ég las uppkastið að þessari grein hafði ég engar athugasemdir. Og fannst upplagið í henni reyndar svo sjálfsagt að ég átti ekki von á öðru en að henni yrði tekið fagnandi.
Það var hinsvegar ekki svo. Skyndilega risu upp karlar, og fundu allt að þessari spurningu. Fáir reyndu að svara henni -að ræða hana, en margir lýstu því hinsvegar að hér væri hugsunarháttur talibana, fasista, öfgafólks og rétttrúnaðar á ferðinni.Þær Hildur og Helga eru sagðir haldnar kvalalosta, gægjufíkn. Gott og vel. Það er í sjálfu sér stigs- en ekki eðlismunur á að kalla konu talibana og tussu. Það sem er öðruvísi hér er hverjir segja hvað.
Hér rís nefnilega feðraveldið upp og urrar. Það er nefnilega svo að það er því í sjálfu sér allt í lagi að benda á fávitana í athugasemdakerfum netmiðlana, þar eru hvort eð er valdalausir einstaklingar að gaspra allan daginn. En þegar bent er á að kvenfyrirlitningin sé einnig í efri lögunum, þá stopper festen. Ekki pönkast á gamla kallaklúbbnum okkar.
Ingimar Karl Helgason hefur tekið saman ágætis yfirlit yfir þessa fjölmiðla umræðu. Það er hér. Lestu það.
Veltu því fyrir þér afhverju ekki einn einasti fjölmiðill hefur haft samband við Hildi eða Helgu. Enginn.
Veltu því fyrir þér afhverju valdakallarnir stökkva allir upp og tala um fyrirgefningu og sátt og fyrnd mál og óheppilegar bréfaskriftir.
Það er vegna þess að þetta kemur við þá og það er vegna þess að þeir skilja ekki afhverju nemendum gæti þótt það óþægilegt að sitja kennslustund hjá manni sem beitir ungling kynferðisofbeldi. Og það er afþví að þeir eru feðraveldið.
Og veltu því fyrir þér hvort þér þyki þetta ekki vera ógeðslegt. Alveg eins og þér finnst ógeðslegt að segja við konu að það þurfi bara að nauðga henni svo hún hætti að vera með kjaft.
(via Abandoned Amusement Parks – Fubiz™)
Kosningavaka Framsóknarfélags Grindavíkur
Post-mastectomy tattoos by Tina Bafaro. Photos by Bafaro.
“It is not where it is or what it is that matters, but how you see it.” — Saul Leiter
(Source: everonwards, via pkam)
Going over (from Karambolage)
You’re tacky and I hate you. — Sylvia Plath (via incorrectsylviaplathquotes)
Don’t be a dick
new year’s resolution